Blog

EncouragingFathers

Encouraging Fathers

If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him! – Matthew 7:11, NIV

…children are a reward from [the Lord]…Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. – Psalm 127:3-4, NIV

Being a military family, Daddy has been gone – a lot. Whether he was home or not, he was a wonderful father. He made every effort to stay in communication and involved with our daughter. But when he was home, for ten years, he was either recovering from being gone or preparing to go. We lived life knowing that he was only temporarily home. Ten years of her growing up, having dance classes, tae kwon do, community theatre, soccer practices, church, etc. As a mom juggling parenting, homemaking, ministry, and life, in general, I had a system. So, when it came to many of the logistical, menial, parenting tasks, it was just easier to do it myself, whether he was home or not. Read More

the gift of seeing fruit

The Gift of Seeing Fruit

Galatians 6:9 “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

One of my favorite things about being in ministry is that God sometimes allows us little glimpses into the fruit He has harvested from our meager efforts to share Him with others. My husband and I are both teachers. I teach Elementary at a Christian international school, and he teaches primarily Old Testament courses at a Bible seminary. We both love to teach and count it a blessing to do so. But since we are not in directly evangelistic ministries, we often don’t see the fruit of our labors in the way others do. It can make us wonder if we are having any impact. Read More

to travel and see the world

To travel and see the world

I know travel is not an opportunity given to everyone in ministry. This is the beauty of living overseas in ministry. The whole earth is the heart of God, not just one tribe, one tongue, one culture – all of it breathes of who He is. The beauty of my life overseas is to see and learn and find I was not so singularly right in all I knew in my small context – that there is much much more, and it looks different than I ever thought. I am more like Jesus because I have been with people who are not like me. Read More

IncludingFathers

Including Fathers

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. – Ephesians 6:4, NIV

As a kid, I quickly learned to defer to my mother for anything requiring permission, due to Dad’s response to anything being, “Go ask your mother.” As a result, one incident in particular left Dad and I engaged in a two week war. He made assumptions because he didn’t have all the information and I was exasperated and took offense.

How often do your children hear the response, “Go ask your mom” or “Go ask your dad”? Don’t get me wrong, my father generally supported my mother’s decisions. But, in time, dad got left out of the communication. I circumvented all things past him straight to Mom. It wasn’t intentional, deliberate, or deceitful. It had just become habit. When he did take an interest in what I was doing, he didn’t know how to relate to me, and I took offense. I see this happen more times than I care to think about amidst parents. Good parents. Parents who love their children and want what’s best for them. But parenting was meant to be teamwork, not relegated to one person. Read More

Closing Voids

Closing Voids

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. – Titus 2:3-5, NIV

Often, I get wrapped up in my to-do list for home and ministry and I can easily lose track of time and place in the midst of completing the list. Its’s so easy to be so engrossed in what I’m doing that I allow that zeal to invade family time. Someone once told me that if we leave voids in our marriages it gives the devil a foothold to tempt our husbands to fill that void elsewhere. I would take that a step further and say the same in regards to our relationships with our children. And, well, voids affect the whole family dynamic. Read More

Care for your Flock

Care for Your Flock

“Know the state of your flock, and put your heart into caring for your herds, for riches don’t last forever, and the crown might not be secure for the next generation.”  Prov. 27:23-24 (NLT)

Please allow me to paraphrase the above verse for today’s ministry families.  “Know the state of your family and put your heart into caring for one another.  This time, this season is rich, but it doesn’t last forever.  Pray that the next generation will follow your example.”

I hesitate to write about this subject because I am so aware of many mistakes that my husband and I made.  We have been married for over forty years and have two adult children.  One of them is a committed Christ follower and, sadly, one is not.  For this article, I will share some of the positives from our many years of being a family in ministry. Read More

TheAnti-bitterness Mystery

The Anti-bitterness Mystery

We had spent the week away, at a conference for pastors and their families.  It was designed to encourage, equip, strengthen.  It had done all that and so much more!  I came home ready to reach the entire world for Christ, single – handedly if need be (Haha, ever been there?)!

“Yea, and how long did that last?” you are wondering.   Oh, about as long as it took me to walk in the door and discover what had been done to me in my absence.  It was one of those mouth wide open, chin on the floor, “Oh my goodness…. you can’t be serious!”  kind of moments. Read More

intentional discipleship

Intentional Discipleship

I was recently reminded of the importance of leadership in the role of mentoring and discipleship. Not just the mentorship that happens as we lead our young people as a group, or even in a small groups. More so, I am thinking of the one-on-one intentional pursuit of a younger individual that you pour into and are available to when they need someone with a few more years of life experience.

There were a few people in my life that mentored me, and were intentional with me. A few of whom were only for short seasons of my life, and that was okay, and I still look back and am so grateful for the time they gave. Some have spent years, and continue to spend their time and intentions listening, guiding, and being available to me. Looking back, I cannot possibly define the importance of those people in my life. Read More

In it for the

In it for the Long Haul

When considering longevity in the ministry, I would like to share a couple of photos of one of my recent adventures to drive this thought home.  My husband and I are currently in Germany for an unknown amount of time for his work.  This is one of my favorite castles, but it brings together a concept.

When we are saved, we are called to ministry.  What this looks like, is different for every one of us, but we are all called to use the gifts God has given us in some way.  We don’t always know right away what that ministry is, it is a journey.  Once God has called us, we can feel that longing to minister in a specific way.  If you will, let’s call that “longing” or “call” the “destination”.  At first you see this “destination” from afar off.It has a long and windy path with twists and turns which I would compare to your ministry path.  These twists and turns may cause you to question if you are in the “right” ministry or if God really knew what He was doing when He called you.  Can I get an amen?  We have all been there! We have all thought “this is tough, God”.  “I am not this strong!”  This destination will surely bring true heartbreak as you watch people pull away from God, and you will think a million times “Is it time for me to leave this ministry.”  Our destination ministries are likely all different, but what we can know for sure is that the God who has called us to this ministry, will certainly call us elsewhere if he feels we are finished with that ministry. Read More

an (1)

An Authentic Friendship

We all have different personalities, ways of doing ministry, direction, purpose…the list could go on. I am a dreamer. I love the big picture and I love to believe it is possible! This is a beautiful quality given to me by the Creator of the Universe – someone who loves the big picture!!

I have been very blessed in ministry to have many dear friends come alongside me and guide me. One in particular I am very keen of. My husband. God knew I would need him for more reasons than just ministry but I have found his friendship particularly helpful in all my pursuits of serving God. God knew I would need a practical mind to balance my sometimes-naive optimism. He is an incredibly moral, truth based, precise, and logical man. This has given me great protection as I pursue ministry. I can often be carried away by an idea, a beautiful big picture, that I believe wholeheartedly is possible by God! The problem is, not all my ideas are what God wants or intends. Without great care, in the midst of big dreams, the enemy can gain great room to make a move and so sometimes I need some practical adjustments. Sometimes someone to just tell me no. Since I love to dream what could be, I often want to run off and start making it happen. I want to run ahead before I have waited patiently at the feet of God to hear his direction. Read More