Romans 1:11-12 For I long to see you, that I may impart some spiritual gift to strengthen you-that is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine.
Think back with me to when you were just a little girl. Was it really that different back then in comparison to now in how you wanted the other girls to like you and accept you? I clearly recall wanting to be a part of a group of friends, one that would accept me for who I was and still genuinely like me.
This is the way our Father created us, to desire connection and relationships with others. As women, much of our identity is in how we relate and interact within the confines of our relationships. We identify ourselves by and through our relationships with others. Whether we are mom, wife, daughter, sister or friend; we long to connect. What God has shown me as of late, is how very important it is for me to have my friends otherwise known as my sisters in Christ with and alongside me for this journey we call life. This is especially true for life in ministry. As I have reflected on friendship and being connected, there is so much the Lord wants us to know. He speaks to my soul, you know ladies, the secret places that we attempt to keep on lockdown so that no one has to see or know. I am praying he will help you do the same especially if you are hiding because you think you need to be alone. We need these deep connections to assist in navigating our marriages, as moms, and as a woman who serves in ministry. Sometimes, we just need them as a tangible reminder of God’s love for us. What I am still grasping is that we were never intended to go this journey alone. God has taken me out of isolation (and continues to), which is normally my safe place to hide when I am inundated with demands or things outside of my control. But God is faithful when we choose to put our “younger more trusting little girl hearts” into His caring hands. I have come to understand this year in particular how much God uses my special sisters to keep me accountable, to keep me feeling loved and accepted, and as encouragement to grow deeper in my faith. It is what we need to thrive in life and ministry. God uses us to be poured out as a blessing and encouragement to other women as well as them for us.
This song has resonated with me recently as I’ve pondered my relationships. It is called If We are Honest by Francesca Battistelli and the lyrics are as follows: Truth is harder than a lie, the truth seems safer than the light and everyone has a heart that loves to hide, I’m a mess and so are you, we’ve built walls nobody can get through. Yeah it may be hard but the best thing we could ever do is bring your brokenness and I’ll bring mine cause love can heal what hurt divides and mercy’s waiting on the other side. IF we’re honest. Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not, living life afraid of getting caught. There is freedom found when we lay our secrets down at the cross. It would change our lives, it would set us free…. it’s what we need to be.
Let us seek out and relish the connections our Father has orchestrated for us to have and thrive in. It requires our vulnerability but we need one another for this journey of faith.