closing voids

Closing Voids

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. – Titus 2:3-5, NIV

Often, I get wrapped up in my to-do list for home and ministry and I can easily lose track of time and place in the midst of completing the list. Its’s so easy to be so engrossed in what I’m doing that I allow that zeal to invade family time. Someone once told me that if we leave voids in our marriages it gives the devil a foothold to tempt our husbands to fill that void elsewhere. I would take that a step further and say the same in regards to our relationships with our children. And, well, voids affect the whole family dynamic.

How often have we heard the phrase “Do as I say, not as I do”? Many times in our efforts to serve our God, we become so focused on the mission we can easily forget the priorities of our ministry. For each of us, our first priority of ministry is our home. Notice in the verse above, the key word “Then..”. We cannot exercise the call to teach others specific actions until we have put that teaching into practice ourselves. We must lead by example in deeds, not only by words, THEN, we can teach others to do as we say AND do.

So how do we prioritize our family to carry out the mandates we’re called to teach? Here are a few suggestions:

Organization… I personally find a calendar to be very helpful. Keeping a calendar with dates and times to include due dates and deadlines is essential.
Limits… Generally, with very few exceptions, I don’t have any more than three “appointments” on any given day. Appointments include deadlines and due dates to ensure I allow myself time to complete whatever needs to be done.
Prioritize… So, in between the three things are the “extras,” like personal projects and interests. Some examples are organizing a closet, reading, and writing blog posts.
Office hours… Have a start and stop time and keep it. Your specific circumstance and season of life can determine those times, the point is to be intentional.
Rest… This is the most important. Take the time to sit at Jesus’ feet…every day…without exception…for how long is between you and Him… but be sure to do so.

There are plenty more ways to help keep things in balance and make your family the priority. These are only a few. What have you found that works for you?

~ A balanced life is an abundant life – Unknown ~


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