Dealing. With. Expectations.

Whoa. Just reading those three words gives me a smidge of anxiety to be honest. Okay…a whole lot of anxiety. Expectations in friendships, marriages, ministries, jobs, projects, etc. I mean, I could just keep going, but you get the idea. There are expectations in every aspect of life, and there is no way to avoid them!! It’s just part of it!

May I get real right now? This is an area that I struggle with on a daily basis you guys. Not only do I place a lot of pressure on myself, I tend to place it on others as well. And it’s too much. It’s dangerous.
I worry about my role as the Women’s Ministry Leader & Communications Director in my church. Am I meeting everyone’s needs? Will they love this retreat? What if something goes wrong? Did I word that Facebook post okay, or could it be better? Am I ministering to these precious ladies in the ways that they desperately need it? Are my fellow team members confident in me in my roles? To do my callings, and do them well? Am I planning enough? Am I over planning? Can anyone relate to this? Anyone? Que crickets.

Listen. Sometimes things just don’t happen as we want them to, but sometimes they do and no matter what, it’s going to be okay. That’s just life. I have learned this the hard way several times. I’m pretty stubborn like that. Thank goodness Jesus loves me stubbornness and all. I think we’re too hard on ourselves. I think we’re too hard on others. I really do. Simple things become complicated when you expect too much not only from yourself, but from others as well. It’s awesome to have expectations, but let’s not get too carried away with them. Life is hard enough as it is. Our focus should be Jesus. He is enough. We lose sight of that when we are too caught up in the pressure of placing demands upon ourselves, in our ministries, on friendships, on marriages, on relationships. I am learning that the more I know Jesus, the more time I spend time with Him, the more I talk to Him, the more time I spend in His word, the more I worship Him, the more I praise and give thanks, the more I am able to rest. To rest in Him. That’s what He wants more than anything you guys. He makes our realities greater than our expectations.

“And so, Lord, where do I put my hope? My only hope is in you.” ~ Psalm 39:7


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