Dealing with the People’s Expectations

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We are talking about expectations and how to deal with them in a ministry setting. No matter what leadership position you hold, you have probably experienced unnecessary expectations placed on you.

While inside, we may want to scream, “That’s not who I am!” On the outside, we have to find a gracious way to introduce who we are and what God has uniquely gifted us to enjoy and do.

Is it possible to be free in Christ to serve how we are wired to, to the extent we are able to when those around us expect something else from us? How do we deal with disappointing them?

I believe it is not only possible, but necessary to lovingly teach others how creative God is in gifting us all differently. God loves variety, He took care to create everyone uniquely. If we aim to meet everyone’s expectations, we do not perfectly reflect God’s glorious variety and creativity.

2 Corinthians 3:18 says, “And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.”

We are reflecting Christ as we continue to transform into who he made us. We saw last week that we are wonderfully made, marvelous. When we try to live out someone else’s expectation of us, we are not allowing God to do the transforming in us.

In order to deal with people’s expectations of us in a way that “transforms us into his image with ever-increasing glory”, we must do the following:

1. Recognize that if we try to meet other’s expectations of us we short change God’s desire for us.

2. Be confident in the gifts you were given. If God gave them to you, you were meant to use them!

3. Allow other’s expectations of you to ask God if He agrees. If not, let them go!

4. Pray for creative ways to show your gifts. Invite others to serve in those areas with you. After a while, they will redefine their expectations of you.

5. Know God’s promises. Get a proper perspective of who you are in Him. That’s all that really matters. He is the only place you will find freedom.

While the journey may be hard and long, the Holy Spirit will help transform you into God’s best! Other people mean well, and while they don’t always know how to reflect it, they too are in the process of transforming. Help them along by walking in the freedom and confidence that comes with being transformed into his image with an every-increasing glory.


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