When ministry puts too much on our plate

too much on your plate

Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

What are we called to do … without feeling guilty that we should be doing more? How do we say no to ministry if we have too much on our plate? This has always been a struggle for me to balance because as a ministry wife, it feels (and it is sometimes told to us) that we need to be there for everything and we need to lead all the expected ministry wife things. How do we know the things we are to say yes to and the things that we need to decline? 

I had to come to the realization that tension is not always an indicator that something is wrong in my life. Sometimes I would feel tension or conflict over a decision that God really wanted me to wrestle with so I could grow. I had to know how bad I wanted it before I would have peace about God’s choice for me. Also, some things are just out of our comfort zone, so naturally we feel stress or tension when that topic is brought up. That doesn’t mean I’m being disobedient, it just means that God needs to do this job through me instead of me doing it on my own. That’s the way it should be all the time anyway, right?

Still, the guilt feelings come in when I think I should be doing something in ministry, but my family needs me instead. Like somehow I’m choosing something less instead of something greater. God didn’t promise that there would be no hard decisions in life between ministry and family. What he did promise is that if we follow Him, we will see that obedience brings peace. Even when others don’t understand, that has to be ok, because we know that God has called us to obey, but not to always be the picture perfect ministry wife that everyone else expects. He wants me to do my best in everything and if that means sitting with my children and doing their homework instead of something else that day, then I have pleased God, and I will have peace.


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