Over the years, God has placed women in my life to mentor me at different times and for different purposes. Some of those women chose me. Others I reached out to for guidance, recognizing in them the characteristics that I wanted to emulate. Now I see mentoring as a circle, with my role morphing and changing as I yield to the Lord. But my first and most important mentor is my mother.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-4
God has uniquely created women for this role
As I reflect on Titus 2:3-4, I see my mother in the role of “older women”. I see myself in the role of “young women”. My mom has taught me in word and deed what it means to love my husband and children. She has taught me to be self-controlled, etc. But somewhere along the line, I realized that I, too, needed to assume the “older” role with the “young women”. God had placed in my sphere of influence: nieces, daughters-in-law, students, friends that need me. God has uniquely created women for this role, and each one of us has something to share with someone else.
So often the challenges and difficulties we face are not about us.
Years ago, my husband and I went through a difficult period with one of our children. Very few people understood what we were enduring because they had not experienced it. It was lonely. At that time, I was teaching a ladies’ Bible study at our church. When we broke into prayer groups, I approached a young woman who was attending for the first time and asked how I could pray for her. She mentioned her daughter but was hesitant to go into much detail. The Holy Spirit prompted me to share a little about our child and experience. I could see the relief on her face when she realized that I understood what she was going through.
So often the challenges and difficulties we face are not about us…but about how God wants to use what we learn to help others. If we are willing to be vulnerable and mentor those God places in our paths God can use us to help others.
It may not always be comfortable, but it is always rewarding to be used by God.
Now I see mentoring as a circle, with my role morphing and changing as I yield to the Lord. I will let Him use what He has allowed in my life to encourage others and accept from others the encouragement I need. It may not always be comfortable, but it is always rewarding to be used by God. And I am forever grateful to my mother for showing me the way.
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