Prepared for Ministry

Dec 17

I will be the first one to admit that I was not prepared for ministry life. Having grown up in a non-Christian home, I had no real concept of what being a pastor’s wife was like.

My life experiences were wide-ranging and not always positive. Among other things: I didn’t have Christian parents to instill Biblical values; I didn’t attend church regularly; I was a victim of sexual abuse at an early age; I helped my family care for aging grandparents; I attended a community college and earned a degree with secretarial skills; and I had a miscarriage while attending to my dying father. Not characteristics that would necessarily exemplify the upbringing of a pastor’s wife.

While studying the life of David, God gave me a different perspective on life experiences. In 1 Samuel 16, we are told how David would play the harp to sooth Saul’s spirit. In 1 Samuel 17, we are told that David killed Goliath with a sling and a stone. But think, he didn’t just pick up a harp and have the ability to play, and he didn’t simply pick up a sling and stone and have accuracy in shooting. He practiced and developed those skills. He played music on many occasions and we are told he killed lion and bear to protect his sheep. God used the ordinary talents and skills David had perfected to accomplish something extraordinary for His glory.

So I think back on my experiences and see how they have benefited me in ministry. I know what it’s like to be the new person in the group that does not understand Christianese. I can identify with the shame and guilt that comes with abuse and can encourage someone coping with it. I understand the strain and frustration that can come from being a caregiver and support a family in that position. I have used my secretarial skills while assisting my husband with various printed materials as well as serving as church secretary. I can empathize with the woman who comes home from the hospital with empty arms.

Although aspects of my past may be less than desirable, God has taken each of my experiences and used them to make me a better pastor’s wife. I take comfort in knowing that God does work all things together for good to those that love Him and are called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)


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