I’ve heard this many times throughout the years, especially since publicly denouncing legalism, cult leaders, abuse in the church and marriages, racism, and more. I also thank God for the gift of my husband. When we were married 12 years ago, I wouldn’t even attend a church because of drums on the stage.
“You aren’t the same person anymore”
“You used to be so compliant”
“I don’t remember you being this opinionated”
“You need to be quiet”
”God isn’t going to bless you”
“Pastor’s wives aren’t allowed to have their own opinions”
Don’t we all change? I cannot IMAGINE still being a 16 year old in my 39 year old body (or even my 27 year old self). I’ve come a looooong way mentally and spiritually and I still have VERY far to go. Thank you Jesus! And this year has been the YEAR of changes in so many ways for so many people.
We need to celebrate change and growth, not demonize it.
I’m so grateful to learn about boundaries, freedom in Christ, grace, and to STOP being a people pleaser. Believe me, I was a pro at that last one. As a pastor’s wife, this one is a HUGE one for me because I want to make people happy. I want to reflect well on my husband. BUT a good reminder is that at the end of the day, it’s Jesus who needs to be pleased with me.
So, the next time someone tells you “you’ve changed” in a negative way, and you know it’s been for the better, smile and say “thank you”. Then go out and spread that joy and hope to others.
Change is a gift, but it’s also a process.
Don’t waste it.
“The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.”
~ Isaiah 40:8
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